Everyone is Special/Everyone Except You and Me

A worthwhile Saturday morning read: "How to Land Your Kid in Therapy", by Lori Gottlieb. My friend and I have talked about the sense of entitlement exhibited by younger coworkers. I thought some of our observations stemmed from a "kids these days" mentality, but, still, I have seen this story play out:

“People who feel like they’re unusually special end up alienating those around them,” Twenge says. “They don’t know how to work on teams as well or deal with limits. They get into the workplace and expect to be stimulated all the time, because their worlds were so structured with activities. They don’t like being told by a boss that their work might need improvement, and they feel insecure if they don’t get a constant stream of praise. They grew up in a culture where everyone gets a trophy just for participating, which is ludicrous and makes no sense when you apply it to actual sports games or work performance. Who would watch an NBA game with no winners or losers? Should everyone get paid the same amount, or get promoted, when some people have superior performance? They grew up in a bubble, so they get out into the real world and they start to feel lost and helpless. Kids who always have problems solved for them believe that they don’t know how to solve problems. And they’re right—they don’t.”

Thanks, Mom and Dad, for equipping me to deal with failure and assholes and life not being fair. And even if I blog like I am, I'm sensible enough to know I'm not the center of the universe.

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