The Art of Living

The Art of Living at Incidental Comics.

Dear Bitchlog: Rick Again

I cannot believe I live in a country where a person who makes a statement like this is in a position to be its next president.


I Want That Boo To Be Me

Allison suggested I use this song when I propose. I think it would work!



Last week I asked for an invite to join Pinterest to figure out what all of the buzz was about.  Honestly, it's a little overwhelming.  I like lists of things better than having them all scattered about like they are on Pinterest and the Facebook timeline.  But today I decided to jump in and make a "board."  And what is the Internet good for? Pretty pictures of celebrities.


I Heart NJ

It's been a big month for gmarriage.  Washington State passed earlier this week, and today the New Jersey Assembly passed marriage equality, following its passage two days ago in the Senate.   I clapped at my desk after I watched the votes go in.

Governor Christie will veto it.  The legislature will have two years to try to override the veto.


Dear Bitchlog: The Reminder

Dear Bitchlog,

Rick Santorum is now the leading contender for the Republican Party presidential nomination in national polls.


  1. Associated Press Interview, April 2003
  2. And if the Supreme Court says that you have the right to consensual sex within your home, then you have the right to bigamy, you have the right to polygamy, you have the right to incest, you have the right to adultery. You have the right to anything. Does that undermine the fabric of our society? I would argue yes, it does. It all comes from, I would argue, this right to privacy that doesn't exist in my opinion in the United States Constitution, this right that was created, it was created in Griswold — Griswold was the contraceptive case — and abortion. And now we're just extending it out. And the further you extend it out, the more you — this freedom actually intervenes and affects the family. You say, well, it's my individual freedom. Yes, but it destroys the basic unit of our society because it condones behavior that's antithetical to strong healthy families. Whether it's polygamy, whether it's adultery, where it's sodomy, all of those things, are antithetical to a healthy, stable, traditional family. Every society in the history of man has upheld the institution of marriage as a bond between a man and a woman. Why? Because society is based on one thing: that society is based on the future of the society. And that's what? Children. Monogamous relationships. In every society, the definition of marriage has not ever to my knowledge included homosexuality. That's not to pick on homosexuality. It's not, you know, man on child, man on dog, or whatever the case may be.
  3. 2006 Comcast (?) Interview
  4. I guess it is and have voted for contraception, although I don’t think it works. I think it’s harmful to women. I think it’s harmful to our society to have a society that says that sex outside of marriage is something that should be encouraged or tolerated… 

Dear America: W.T.F?



"My haters are my motivators." 

Sidenote: fascinated by the JCPenney re-brand.


The Ruling

All that Proposition 8 accomplished was to take away from same-sex couples the right to be granted marriage licenses and thus legally to use the designation of 'marriage,' which symbolizes state legitimization and societal recognition of their committed relationships. Proposition 8 serves no purpose, and has no effect, other than to lessen the status and human dignity of gays and lesbians in California, and to officially reclassify their relationships and families as inferior to those of opposite-sex couples. The Constitution simply does not allow for "laws of this sort." Romer v. Evans, 517 U.S. 620, 633 (1996).
I'm not sure how you cite a court ruling, but this is from the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals ruling on Perry v. Brown.



"You're always writing letters to people you don't talk to anymore while ignoring the people you should talk to!" This was how my brain ended an argument we were having about blogging in January. So in anger, laziness, and a spirit of not caring, I began copying and pasting. Not very creative. I was still thinking about letters, not least because I began reading the letters of John and Abigail Adams. Thinking over the idea that the blog or letters I've written were only one side of a conversation. The past month offers glimpses of the other side: e-mails, IMs, text messages I've received. In truth, none of them are from a proper letter (one is quote from a birthday card), but again: laziness.

There is not much rhyme or reason, just things that struck me as interesting, funny, unforgettable at the beginning of 2012.   Some were aligned to specific dates: #28, can you spell out the M. one day, is a question I asked J.P. in an e-mail ten years ago.  He signed his name J.P.M.R.  January 28th is our anniversary.  (#6 is from an e-mail he sent me around the same time.) #9 I liked because it made me laugh out loud.  #29 returns to me often (years after it was written I e-mailed my friend to confess that I dwell on this - the bathtub, the dilemma), as does #8, which is a comment Julie made when asked about all the frequent shopper/loyalty cards on her key chain.  The quotations from poems or books are things I liked but never knew what to do with. Exception: #17, originally was going to be a quote from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind movie, but then I went for Alexander Pope instead (the poem where the title is from) because the of the writing/letter reference. #26 might sound ominous, but it is actually an order Imme gave me over Christmas to help her open a puzzle that was wrapped in plastic.

Moving on to February, our future location will be revealed to us by the end of the month.  The short list appears to be Boston, Los Angeles, and New York. Not necessarily in that order.  Rankings will be determined this weekend.